Last few weeks, I realize that I used my eyes more than my heart to see people problem or to see people reaction.
And that was cause many problems with me. I looked like a mad old woman, who loose her control because of less love. LOL
Especially because of my job at my office, where I have to handle all staff at the office. May be all of them, thought that I could not sacrifice with all they did, some one who just know something name "COMPLAIN", some one who thought that only she can do everything perfect. No one can do like her.
Yup, actually if I am in the middle of my stress because of the dateline, it is easier for me to get angry. And ussually one trick that I always do to handle my angriness, is sitting down, take a deep breath and trying to change my point of view.
And than use my heart and trying to put my self at their position. I am using this method again and again and seems work. And the best things from that, I can through away my angriness, do not ill feel and the best of that, I did not hurt someone by accident because of my words.
Because if we use our heart to see everything, from people point of view. It will not need many of your passion, and it will easy for you to forgive everybody. Sometimes, people do something for someone because of their good will - want to help people. But when they did it, unfortunately the result is not as same as what they think or sometimes it make the problem became worse. But trust me, many of them, often did not mean it. So, I thought it is not fair if we get angry with them just because of that. Just forgive them, tell them in the good way, why it is better if they did not do it, so they will understand and will not just ill feel to you because they did not understand what is the trouble they make it because of their action.
My weakness now, is if I am too tired, have too much work, hard for me to sit down, take a deep beath and try to use my heart to see deeper. May be now I should handle my self to more care about them and be passion with them no matter how tired I am.
But I believe, I can do it next week , so there will be only smile face around me :D
Women and technology
90 % staff at my office are women, It is the reason why our network always said that we are fabby's angel ( PS: my boss name is Fabby) LOL. But if you think that all cubicle at my office are tidy because of the women staff ...... I tell you now, you are wrong, because you just find all messy place there hahahhahhaa
As you know, most of women have a difficult relationship with something name technology, that is happen too with the women staff at my office, all of them just can use computer without have a knowledge how to maintain it, They even need some one to help them to connect their laptop to their computer. LOL
If you ask why. I just can say that I do not know, may be because technology need too much logical thinking. And most women did not like to use the logical way to solve any problem, cause we use our feeling to do it. LOL
Beside that manual book of the the technology always look like a boring book, which can make most of us - women, feel lazy to read it :D Is it hard to make the manual book looks like a nice and simple book? Or why the manual book do not use eye catching colour and detail explanation. Why the creator of the manual book (I bet must be man. LOL - yes I am bias gender now :D), think that we - women know what they mean, by just say the important thing and forget the detail. Is it hard to make the manual book full of colour with full of pictures (which help us to understand which button we should press, or if the stand by mode mean that our laptop can use again in a second if we press any key or which us to understand that sometimes our printer could not print something not because of it broken but because of we did not tide the cable good enough)
So gentleman, please understand, that is not because we - women are not smart enough to understand the technology, but because of the manual of technology is not too fancy enough for us to read it :D
If the manual book is a bit same fancy and funny like make up book, may be women will have better relationship with it. And we will repair our own gadget without men's help. LOL
Because if the manual book is still same like now ........ don't hope our relationship with the technology become better :D
Have a great weekend all
As you know, most of women have a difficult relationship with something name technology, that is happen too with the women staff at my office, all of them just can use computer without have a knowledge how to maintain it, They even need some one to help them to connect their laptop to their computer. LOL
If you ask why. I just can say that I do not know, may be because technology need too much logical thinking. And most women did not like to use the logical way to solve any problem, cause we use our feeling to do it. LOL
Beside that manual book of the the technology always look like a boring book, which can make most of us - women, feel lazy to read it :D Is it hard to make the manual book looks like a nice and simple book? Or why the manual book do not use eye catching colour and detail explanation. Why the creator of the manual book (I bet must be man. LOL - yes I am bias gender now :D), think that we - women know what they mean, by just say the important thing and forget the detail. Is it hard to make the manual book full of colour with full of pictures (which help us to understand which button we should press, or if the stand by mode mean that our laptop can use again in a second if we press any key or which us to understand that sometimes our printer could not print something not because of it broken but because of we did not tide the cable good enough)
So gentleman, please understand, that is not because we - women are not smart enough to understand the technology, but because of the manual of technology is not too fancy enough for us to read it :D
If the manual book is a bit same fancy and funny like make up book, may be women will have better relationship with it. And we will repair our own gadget without men's help. LOL
Because if the manual book is still same like now ........ don't hope our relationship with the technology become better :D
Have a great weekend all
Is it the "size" matter for us (red: woman)?
As an Indonesian woman who ever had a long relantionship with western man, the question which is always asked to me from many Indonesia male and female (yes I repeated male and female) is western guy really has a 'big' size. BTW: as an adult people, you know what I mean about 'big' size in here, right :D
When I answered their question with smile, ussually the follow statement from them was my smile must mean that the answer from the question is "yes" and that is the reason why I do not want to have any Indonesian boy friend. LOL
And the crazy one, that is my female friend who really curios about the western size until decide that she has to sleep with one western guy and she believe it will be like a heaven. Hahahahahahaaa.
For me, actually I did not ever thinking about big or small, come on .... you know exactly that is not about size if you do that base on love, right? Whose care about size?
Ussually after they asked me that size question, I always ask my female friends how big they think it will make them happy. Hahahahahahahaha And yes .... they can't answer my question. Because the fact even with the small size, a lot of them still can feel satisfied. So? Why they always asked me about the size? I did not think and did not want to compare anybody because I did not want somebody compare me with anybody else too. Especially I never brought a ruler with me if I were with any guys (western or eastern or everywhere). Hahahahahhaaha
So the question about "size", I think the stupid question that I am lazy to hear. Don't always think that every best sex must be because the man has a big size. Hi ... please don't compare it with something which you saw at the porn movie. Where you will see the big boobs woman and the big size man, and can do every crazy things. LOL
Try to think first about love, so it is easy for you to do (like I ever wrote before why they call it "making love" and not "making sex") because it is not how good your body are (cause no body is perfect) but it is about how to share something special with someone that you love (who you accept with all their weakness and whom you do not want to leave without).
So please .... dont think (and don't ask me again. LOL) about the size. I am not a doctor and I never measure the size of all men that I ever meet :D Trust me from my research from many of women, a lot of them admit that actually "size" is not a matter for them, as long as they feel your love and your care to them.
Have a great day all.
xoxoxo
When I answered their question with smile, ussually the follow statement from them was my smile must mean that the answer from the question is "yes" and that is the reason why I do not want to have any Indonesian boy friend. LOL
And the crazy one, that is my female friend who really curios about the western size until decide that she has to sleep with one western guy and she believe it will be like a heaven. Hahahahahahaaa.
For me, actually I did not ever thinking about big or small, come on .... you know exactly that is not about size if you do that base on love, right? Whose care about size?
Ussually after they asked me that size question, I always ask my female friends how big they think it will make them happy. Hahahahahahahaha And yes .... they can't answer my question. Because the fact even with the small size, a lot of them still can feel satisfied. So? Why they always asked me about the size? I did not think and did not want to compare anybody because I did not want somebody compare me with anybody else too. Especially I never brought a ruler with me if I were with any guys (western or eastern or everywhere). Hahahahahhaaha
So the question about "size", I think the stupid question that I am lazy to hear. Don't always think that every best sex must be because the man has a big size. Hi ... please don't compare it with something which you saw at the porn movie. Where you will see the big boobs woman and the big size man, and can do every crazy things. LOL
Try to think first about love, so it is easy for you to do (like I ever wrote before why they call it "making love" and not "making sex") because it is not how good your body are (cause no body is perfect) but it is about how to share something special with someone that you love (who you accept with all their weakness and whom you do not want to leave without).
So please .... dont think (and don't ask me again. LOL) about the size. I am not a doctor and I never measure the size of all men that I ever meet :D Trust me from my research from many of women, a lot of them admit that actually "size" is not a matter for them, as long as they feel your love and your care to them.
Have a great day all.
xoxoxo
New Year and My Resolution
2012 just begin for a few days, and so far, I still do not have any idea about what is my resolution for this year. Of course I still have my own dream and still believe all my dreams will come true in the right time (redd: the right time from God of view for me )
Yes, I know, I will not become younger but I know I will not let myself become older too. May be just my age more than before but not myself :D I do not feel old and I think I still in my great times :D
Last year I made many mistakes and I wish that I will not repeat the same mistake and the important thing that I have to be more happy from last year.
About my someone special? If God think he is the good one for me and if He think that this year is the good year for me, no one can stop Him to make us become together, right? I already ask my lovely God and I believe that He will give to me if He thinks it is the right man and the right time.
Same like job, home etc. I believe that He already has that for me, I just have to prove Him that I am worthy for it :D So I will work hard and give my best for everything I do. I will never give up.
Life is beautiful and if not too beautiful, I still have my God beside me. And with Him I know, nothing is impossible.
Happy New Year everyone, wish all your best dreams will come true and you will get only the best in this world cause you deserve to have it. And dont forget to give more loves to others around you.
Yes, I know, I will not become younger but I know I will not let myself become older too. May be just my age more than before but not myself :D I do not feel old and I think I still in my great times :D
Last year I made many mistakes and I wish that I will not repeat the same mistake and the important thing that I have to be more happy from last year.
About my someone special? If God think he is the good one for me and if He think that this year is the good year for me, no one can stop Him to make us become together, right? I already ask my lovely God and I believe that He will give to me if He thinks it is the right man and the right time.
Same like job, home etc. I believe that He already has that for me, I just have to prove Him that I am worthy for it :D So I will work hard and give my best for everything I do. I will never give up.
Life is beautiful and if not too beautiful, I still have my God beside me. And with Him I know, nothing is impossible.
Happy New Year everyone, wish all your best dreams will come true and you will get only the best in this world cause you deserve to have it. And dont forget to give more loves to others around you.
My biggest family
One of the best parts of me of course my family. I mean my mom, my siblings, my in laws and of course my lovely nephews. They colour my life with their own way. Of course, one or two times, we have a conflict between us, but it will not reduce our love to each others. Until now (and I hope until end of my life) may be if I got angry with my sister or my mom, I just could not be able to talk with them only 1 hour and not more, with my brothers may be just 2 days and not more.
I even know almost all my sister problems, all her love story, her good time and bad time. She is my best friend, my mother and my child but never be my rival. She is really beautiful, so sometimes people always asked me if we really blood sister. LOL From her, I learn how to care myself as a woman, she taught me which body lotion good for my skin, which is moisturizer good for me etc. She is my motivator too. When I was in my low condition, she always pushed me and ensured me that I am a strong woman who can pass all. May be I am a bit unfair for her, because I rarely tell her about my love story. So, no wonder she rarely knows about who is with me.
My relationship with my two brothers is unique. Through them, I learn to be a parent, because when they were a teenager when my parents had their own problem, I replaced my parent position as their parent. I took care about their schools fee, their living cost and all what parents must do for their children.
And that is me for them. I am their elder sister and their parent. They rarely say “no” to me and they put much respect to me. They know if they have a problem, they always have me to support them. And they know if I am angry one or two times with them, it is because I care about them and not because I do not like them.
And yes the four of us are close to each other. If one of us has a problem or sad or happy, we will feel the same. We support each other and we always there for each other. Of course because all except me have their own family, our time for each other is not much as before. So the family time is one of our favourite time, and to make one family times with complete member means that we should make special schedule.
Before I moved to Jakarta, the one who always missed at our family time is me :D I even missed my little brother wedding – yes I am not a good family member. But I always try my best to be with them as long as I can.
Sometimes I thought, maybe if that time our father did not leave us, we would not close to each other as we are now. Maybe we would be same like others families who did not care about their siblings, even did not want to help their siblings at all.
Like yesterday, we had our family times. Went out to the one Mall in Jakarta, ate our lunch together in Chinese restaurant there and had a nice shopping together after that. It was a simple thing, but you know, the feeling that you feel when together with them, is hard to explain. I feel that I am the blessed one. And nothing can compare it.
Same like when I saw how my mom becomes the most beautiful one in front of her all grandson. She looked so happy especially all her grandson wanted to get her attention in the same time. LOL And feel so happy when all my nephew like what I bought for them and when they wanted to play with me.
Yes I am so grateful with my family because they are one of the best things that I have. And wish one day, I can add the family members with my man and my child (Amen).
I even know almost all my sister problems, all her love story, her good time and bad time. She is my best friend, my mother and my child but never be my rival. She is really beautiful, so sometimes people always asked me if we really blood sister. LOL From her, I learn how to care myself as a woman, she taught me which body lotion good for my skin, which is moisturizer good for me etc. She is my motivator too. When I was in my low condition, she always pushed me and ensured me that I am a strong woman who can pass all. May be I am a bit unfair for her, because I rarely tell her about my love story. So, no wonder she rarely knows about who is with me.
My relationship with my two brothers is unique. Through them, I learn to be a parent, because when they were a teenager when my parents had their own problem, I replaced my parent position as their parent. I took care about their schools fee, their living cost and all what parents must do for their children.
And that is me for them. I am their elder sister and their parent. They rarely say “no” to me and they put much respect to me. They know if they have a problem, they always have me to support them. And they know if I am angry one or two times with them, it is because I care about them and not because I do not like them.
And yes the four of us are close to each other. If one of us has a problem or sad or happy, we will feel the same. We support each other and we always there for each other. Of course because all except me have their own family, our time for each other is not much as before. So the family time is one of our favourite time, and to make one family times with complete member means that we should make special schedule.
Before I moved to Jakarta, the one who always missed at our family time is me :D I even missed my little brother wedding – yes I am not a good family member. But I always try my best to be with them as long as I can.
Sometimes I thought, maybe if that time our father did not leave us, we would not close to each other as we are now. Maybe we would be same like others families who did not care about their siblings, even did not want to help their siblings at all.
Like yesterday, we had our family times. Went out to the one Mall in Jakarta, ate our lunch together in Chinese restaurant there and had a nice shopping together after that. It was a simple thing, but you know, the feeling that you feel when together with them, is hard to explain. I feel that I am the blessed one. And nothing can compare it.
Same like when I saw how my mom becomes the most beautiful one in front of her all grandson. She looked so happy especially all her grandson wanted to get her attention in the same time. LOL And feel so happy when all my nephew like what I bought for them and when they wanted to play with me.
Yes I am so grateful with my family because they are one of the best things that I have. And wish one day, I can add the family members with my man and my child (Amen).
The actress syndrome :D
I have many of beautiful friends (but of course that happens to with a few of my handsome males friend) who have a unique hobby. They never want to let everybody whom fall in love with them, go away from them, even though actually they do not like them at all. It kinds of do not want to let your fans, go away from you :D That is a reason why I call it actress syndrome.
So they will let this "fans" go around them, but do not let them to be their lover. They will ask their "fans" to do many things for them, sometimes even to buy all the expensive things for them. Yup poor "fans" :D
One of them, ever told me that she could not accept when one of her "fans", falling in love with other woman and then marry this woman. She said her "fans" actually cheated her.LOL And when I asked, how do you sure about it? She answered me : because she is sure 100 % that man (her fans) could not be able to fall in love to another woman. Uhm....
Sometimes I feel like they fool all their" fans". And from the bottom of my heart, I really do not comfortable to see this situation. I could not imagine how if I were in the position of the "fans"?
You know, there is many people in this world who want to do everything for the one that they love. And want to wait for them as long as they ask them to do. I think it is kind of cruel if you let someone that you could not love, to wait for you. Just reject them and let them to find another people who love them too. Let them to have their own happines
May be they would feel hurt one or two months after you reject them, but after that, they will feel all right again and begin their new life to find others. They will not waste their time for waiting for you or being fool by you.
Trust me, you still have many friends who loves you more if your reason because you just need love by people. And people still said that you are beauty even though you do not have many "fans" with you. Or if you still want to keep all your "fans", please ask your heart first ... do you want to be in their position? If your answer is NO, so don't keep them with you.
And if you are the position of "fans" someone, I just asked you to stop it. Try to forget people who do not love you. people who play with your heart. If they are really love you, they will not let you to wait them so long. They will not fool you, they will proud about you and will tell at least one of their friend that you are his/her lover. By hide you from the world, it is show that actually, they do not deserve the beautiful you.
So try to find some one who love you and respect you. If you do not find them yet, just be passion, and don't ever loose your faith. When the time is right, the mr right or miss right will come to you and color your life with their love. Because trust me, God loves you, He will not let you being lonely.
So they will let this "fans" go around them, but do not let them to be their lover. They will ask their "fans" to do many things for them, sometimes even to buy all the expensive things for them. Yup poor "fans" :D
One of them, ever told me that she could not accept when one of her "fans", falling in love with other woman and then marry this woman. She said her "fans" actually cheated her.LOL And when I asked, how do you sure about it? She answered me : because she is sure 100 % that man (her fans) could not be able to fall in love to another woman. Uhm....
Sometimes I feel like they fool all their" fans". And from the bottom of my heart, I really do not comfortable to see this situation. I could not imagine how if I were in the position of the "fans"?
You know, there is many people in this world who want to do everything for the one that they love. And want to wait for them as long as they ask them to do. I think it is kind of cruel if you let someone that you could not love, to wait for you. Just reject them and let them to find another people who love them too. Let them to have their own happines
May be they would feel hurt one or two months after you reject them, but after that, they will feel all right again and begin their new life to find others. They will not waste their time for waiting for you or being fool by you.
Trust me, you still have many friends who loves you more if your reason because you just need love by people. And people still said that you are beauty even though you do not have many "fans" with you. Or if you still want to keep all your "fans", please ask your heart first ... do you want to be in their position? If your answer is NO, so don't keep them with you.
And if you are the position of "fans" someone, I just asked you to stop it. Try to forget people who do not love you. people who play with your heart. If they are really love you, they will not let you to wait them so long. They will not fool you, they will proud about you and will tell at least one of their friend that you are his/her lover. By hide you from the world, it is show that actually, they do not deserve the beautiful you.
So try to find some one who love you and respect you. If you do not find them yet, just be passion, and don't ever loose your faith. When the time is right, the mr right or miss right will come to you and color your life with their love. Because trust me, God loves you, He will not let you being lonely.
About Football and the Handsome Player
One of sport that I like to watch is football. I begun to like it when I've stayed in Europe a few years ago. At that time, because I could not speak the language of the place where I stayed, so the only tv Channel which I could be able to watch only CNN, MTV and ESPN. As you know all, football is kind of favorite sport in Europe, that is the reason if you open the ESPN, you see many things about football from Bundesliga, Champions League, European Champions, La Liga etc.
Why I like it? Because I think football like a mathematic and since I like mathematic, I must like football too :D Even though : sometimes you could not make 100 % prediction in football, everything could be happen at the match. That is the reason too, at the Champion, sometimes you could see that underdog team could be a winner (remember European Champion - when Greek be a winner?) or you could see the strong team, become a loser? (remember about Real Madrid which many expensive football players were there but still .... they could not be a winner)
And you can see how the different the style of football team from Latin America and from Europe. Latin America team, like Brasilian team, Mexico team, is ussually play hard, and not like Europe. They play football like a dancing, Smooth and beautiful. Especially if you see how they bring the ball with they foot. So beautiful. My English friend ever said "that is why we called the game : football and not soccer" LOL
Lately when I was back to Indonesia, I was so amazing when a few of my female friends like to watch a football. First I thougth because they really love to watch football, but the last I knew that is because many handsome players there. LOL That is the reason why they did not know the rule of the game, because actually they did not watch the game but watch the players hahahahhaaa.
And there is the phenomenon nowdays why many women love to watch football. Not watch football but watch the player. There is the reason why David Beckham is really famous for them, even though he could not play football. LOL
I did not think that is bad. At least many of my male friends are happy now because their girlfriend or wife even want to joint with them to watch football, and again not because they love to watch football but because they love to watch the player.
So if many men will discuss about how good the match after watch the game, many women will discuss about how handsome the player (about the hair cut, about the smile, about the gossip, about the status (with a hope that all the handsome one is always single)).
But for me - now I enjoy both - the match and their handsome face :D
Why I like it? Because I think football like a mathematic and since I like mathematic, I must like football too :D Even though : sometimes you could not make 100 % prediction in football, everything could be happen at the match. That is the reason too, at the Champion, sometimes you could see that underdog team could be a winner (remember European Champion - when Greek be a winner?) or you could see the strong team, become a loser? (remember about Real Madrid which many expensive football players were there but still .... they could not be a winner)
And you can see how the different the style of football team from Latin America and from Europe. Latin America team, like Brasilian team, Mexico team, is ussually play hard, and not like Europe. They play football like a dancing, Smooth and beautiful. Especially if you see how they bring the ball with they foot. So beautiful. My English friend ever said "that is why we called the game : football and not soccer" LOL
Lately when I was back to Indonesia, I was so amazing when a few of my female friends like to watch a football. First I thougth because they really love to watch football, but the last I knew that is because many handsome players there. LOL That is the reason why they did not know the rule of the game, because actually they did not watch the game but watch the players hahahahhaaa.
And there is the phenomenon nowdays why many women love to watch football. Not watch football but watch the player. There is the reason why David Beckham is really famous for them, even though he could not play football. LOL
I did not think that is bad. At least many of my male friends are happy now because their girlfriend or wife even want to joint with them to watch football, and again not because they love to watch football but because they love to watch the player.
So if many men will discuss about how good the match after watch the game, many women will discuss about how handsome the player (about the hair cut, about the smile, about the gossip, about the status (with a hope that all the handsome one is always single)).
But for me - now I enjoy both - the match and their handsome face :D
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